A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis


Paperback: 112 pages
Publisher: HarperOne (February 6, 2001)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0060652381
ISBN-13: 978-0060652388
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This was written after the death of C.S. Lewis’ wife from cancer.   As the book progresses, he covers the different stages of Grief.  He also covers how his relationship with God changes during the course of his grief.   I think this book would be helpful to anyone experience grief, especially on helping to get through it.  Having lost people, I could relate to his feelings, and to the different stages he was going through.  The one problem that I did have, was the language was a little beyond that of the casual reader.   The book is also not pleasant, due to the subject matter. 

One area for example, he talks about the danger of falling into the trap of what the loved one would do.  He stated he found that he’d often find himself saying “H. Wouldn’t like that”, or “That’s what H. Would do”.  His caution is that you can fall into using it as domestic tyranny.  For example, a single parent raising a child would fall into a pattern of “Your mother wouldn’t like that”.  I could see his point, because it almost seems abusive. 

If your going through grief, or know someone who is, pick this up.  I think it might help.  If your looking for a feel good book that, I’d suggest something along a different line.  The book was very well written, even though the language at times gave me problems.  I would however recommend it.

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